I know that I am in forgiveness debt - both ways. I've got a lot of forgiving to do and I am hoping that there is still forgiveness coming my way. The advice about forgiveness that Jesus gives us in the Bible is this: "I tell you not 7 times, but 77 times." (Matthew 18:22). Upon first glance at this verse, it makes me think that we are called to flood people with forgiveness. I think that is true - forgiveness should be in abundance. But I also think that Jesus is saying this - forgive from a place of sincerity, and do it wholeheartedly, get to the point where you can give forgiveness upwards of 77 times.
Willy's song is a good reminder that we are on no timeline for forgiveness. That is not to say that we should hold on to anger for a long time - that becomes self-destructive. One of the lines from Angry Words says this:
I have cursed your name a thousand times or more
Your photograph lies deep at the bottom of my drawer
But when I looked at it this morning, I had not angry words to say
I think to forgive, we have to get to the point where we run out of angry words - get to the point where we can set them aside. Forgiveness is a change within the giver. We often talk about forgiving and forgetting. Forgetting can be the hard part. And maybe sometimes it is alright not to forget - not to necessarily dwell on something - but to learn from what it was that we are giving forgiveness for. I think forgiveness can be coupled with letting go.
Forgive and let go. Forgive when you are ready to forgive. Forgive when it comes from a place of honesty and truthfullness. Forgive in abundance. Forgive and have no more angry words to say.
~SP


